Our wedding is finally over, but now it's time to carry the practices we followed and the goals we set for our special day into our married life. We aim to buy less, use less, and make less waste, and to lead healthy, happy lives for ourselves and the planet.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Our Eco-friendly Wedding

Seven people rode in four cars (one of them a mini-van) to Tilden Park Sunday morning, April 22.  I hadn't wanted to take that many cars, but if we hadn't rented the van, we would have had to make multiple trips between home and the venue with the rest of the cars.  


The park was decorated with pennant flags made from pages of old books and dictionaries.  The tables were adorned with reused bottles and jars filled with paper cranes (made of book pages) and flowers made from yarn, dress patterns, and newspaper. 




We labeled the garbage cans, used biodegradable trash bags, and put signs in the bathrooms to remind guests to conserve paper towels.  The four trash cans at the picnic area were for compost (2), paper recycling, and landfill.  There was also bottle and can recycling already at the site.  Over the course of the day, none of the cans became full.  The park rangers thought someone had beaten them to taking out the garbage when they came midday to empty the cans.  They said typically they have to come three times during an event our size to take out the trash.  That's twelve bags of landfill waste.  And we didn't even fill one!  We took the compost and paper recycling home as they didn't have the proper facilities at the park.



We did not provide our guests with any water save that from the nearby drinking fountain.

All of our food was vegan and a lot of it came from local farmers' markets.  Our friends Becky and Charles bought pounds and pounds of produce from the El Cerrito Farmers' Market and made sure everyone there wished us well.


So how green was our wedding?  It was large, one hundred and sixty people, and that's one of the least green things about any wedding: the larger it is, the larger its carbon footprint.  Unfortunately, none of those hundred and sixty mentioned anything about taking public transportation or their bikes to get to the venue.  But several of our guests did donate money or their time to charity organizations -- including Native Energy, Oakland Based Urban Gardens, and Sustainable Markets Foundation -- to help offset our carbon footprint.

We used no electricity at the venue (though we did have a small, battery-powered sound system).

We donated about ten loaves of bread, two large bags of salad, and three bags of tortilla chips to the Alameda County Food Bank.  A lot of our fresh leftovers were divvied up between the guests.  

We recycled all of our bottles and a lot of our cups (glass jars with the labels peeled off) at the venue.  I have lots of decorations and utensils left over: paper cranes, embellished glass bottles and jars, yarn flowers, ceramic plates, silverware.  I hope to get the decorations reused by another bride by posting on Ruffled.  A lot of the utensils will go to my clients who need it.  We're trying to make sure everything we used but no longer need finds a good home far from the landfill.  Let me know if you're interested in anything you've seen.

Aside from the car emissions from all of our guests driving to the wedding, we did a pretty good job of making our event as eco-friendly as possible.  Over the next year, I intend on volunteering as often as possible for shoreline and regional park clean-ups to "erase" as much of our carbon footprint as I can.  I encourage you to join me.  Every day is Earth Day!

The Cost of an Eco-chic, Eco-cheap Wedding

The average American wedding costs about $27,000. I've been to a couple of weddings that were probably close to $100,000, complete with multiple photographers, multiple videographers, multiple make-up artists, multiple cakes, Monique Lhuillier dresses, fancy vineyard venues, and gourmet food. 

During our year-long engagement, I picked up lots of wedding magazines, including one that advertised itself as featuring "budget weddings". The cheapest among these was $10,000, and this did not include the dress or the rings. Most of the supposedly "cheap" weddings highlighted in the magazine still cost around $25,000. 

In contrast, we spent a total of about $4,400 on our absolutely beautiful dream wedding and were overwhelmed with how perfect everything was. Looking back it's apparent that there was no need to spend any more than that; throwing more money at it wouldn't have made it any more special, memorable, or divine.

Not only does our $4,400 total include two separate wedding dresses (one I wore for the ceremony and the other I wore for the rehearsal dinner and to a party the day before the wedding) and the rings (four between the two of us), it also includes the cost of things we didn't end up using (a blouse, an iPod dock, some silly panties), plane tickets for a close friend, clothing for six guests (who couldn't otherwise afford it), and even the deposit from the venue, which we still expect to receive back in full.

How did we do it, you ask?

Our outdoor picnic area venue was only $398 (minus the $150 deposit).  Our officiant (a close friend) was free (though the $4,400 total does include a $98 gift for her).  We had no photographer (our friends and family filled in that gap expertly).  Our cake and cupcakes were made by our best man (and a couple of friends).  Our clothes were from the Gap, thrift stores, and Etsy.  Our rings were locally made and included no gems.  All of our flowers were handmade from recycled materials, as were our favors.  We didn't have a wedding planner (besides me), and we didn't have any fancy cars to drive us to the ceremony or reception (unless you consider a Nissan Quest minivan fancy, which perhaps you should).

Our music turned out to be our largest expense: $400 for the two-man band (plus a $110 tip).  But it was well worth the price.  They were amazing and had learned and arranged dozens of songs, including "California Love" by 2Pac Shakur, "Dance with My Father" by Luther Vandross, and "Only Girl" by Rihanna.

What the $4,400 total does not include is all of the food and alcohol that our friends and family gifted us for the reception.  While we did pay for some of the food, many guests decided to help with the potluck rather than give us presents, which was just what we wanted.

The total also does not include the cost of the rehearsal dinner (which was about $300 for seven people split between both sets of parents) or the honeymoon (though the hotel was only $238 fo a full week because my lovely parents lent us their timeshare).

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Here is an itemized list of what we bought (I highlighted purchases that were, for various reasons, "superfluous"):

Engagement and Wedding Rings (4) (Kiss My Ring) - $500
Engagement Earrings (Kiss My Ring) - ~$88

Marriage License - $96
Venue - $398 (expecting a $150 deposit refund)
Musicians - $400 (parents paid)
Tip for Musicians - $110 (parents paid $50)
Tip for Officiant - $98
Rental Car - $118 (parents paid)
Rental Chairs - $64.90

Wedding Dress 1 (Haight Street thrift store) - $82.13
Fabric and Zipper for Wedding Dress 1 (Discount Fabrics) - $11.46
Alterations on Wedding Dress 1 - $40
Tulle Skirt (Wedding Dress 2) (Etsy) - $165
Corset (Wedding Dress 2) (Etsy) - $119.50
Kasey's Jacket (Decades of Fashion) - ~$32
Kasey's Shoes - ~$60
Parasol, etc. (Lacis) - ~$64
Under-dress (H&M) - ~$14.30
Veil (Lacis) - ~$30
Earrings (Tree House) - $12.29
Necklace - $39
Headband (Tree House) - $17.56
Blouse - ~$50 (didn't wear)
Sash - ~$5 (didn’t use)
American Apparel Panties - ~$39 (didn't wear)
Travis' Clothes (Gap) - ~$180
Travis' Shoes (Simple) - $55

Clothes for 4 Guests (dd's) - ~$30
Clothes for Guest - ~$85 
Shirt for Guest- ~$27.75
Plane Tickets for Guest- $275.20

Food (Whole Foods) - ~$177.00 (parents paid)
Food (Farmers' Market) - $27 (parents paid)
Food (Trader Joe's) - ~$50? (parents paid)
Food (Trader Joe's) - $53.82
Juice and Vegenaise (Sprouts) - ~$74
Plates and Forks (Unique Boutique) - $9.50
Paper Plates (Grocery Outlet) - $19.95
Cake stand, baking cups (Someone's in the Kitchen) -$136.70

Burlap Sacks (Etsy) - $36
Hemp Twine (Dick Blick) -  $6.80
Paperweights (Loved to Death) - ~$46
Basket (Out of the Closet) - $3.50
Bottles (Urban Ore) - $6.74
Doilies and Handkerchiefs (Urban Ore) - $9.00
Doilies and Handkerchiefs (Clausen House) - $16.75
Doily and Ring Case (Clausen House) - $2.40
Doilies (Clausen House) - $25
Doilies (Clausen House) - $11
Doilies (Church Mouse) - ~$40
Doilies (Mixed Pickles) - $2.18
Sack, Handkerchiefs, Table Runner (Pauline's) - $20
Fabric (EB Depot) - $6
Yarn and Fabric (EB Depot) - $7.50
Ribbon (Stonemountain) - $6.09
Paper, Envelopes (EB Depot) - ~$10.24
Thread, Photos, Paper (EB Depot) - $10.06
Pens (Staples) - $19.54
Glue (Dick Blick's) - $4.75
Glue (Stonemountain) - $12.34
Glue Tape (Paper Source) - $26.70
Glue, twine, Goo Gone (ACE) - ~$25
Foam Squares (Paper Source) - ~$12
Ribbon and Glue (Stonemountain) - $34.04
Safety Pins (ACE) - ~$6
Scissors, needles (Lacis) - ~$29
Stakes for Altar (ACE) - $10.42 (parents paid)
Screws for Table (ACE) - ~$5? (parents paid)
Books (Pegasus, Shakespeare and Company) - $17.22
Books and Basket (EB Depot) - ~$18
Lace, books (Lacis) - ~$33.50 (parents paid)
JCPenney Wedding Guide (Urban Ore) - $1.42

iPod Dock (Amazon) - ~$55.00 (didn't use)

Rooting Growth Hormone (for plant favors) - ~$10